Kids and Divorces

Is it possible to have a successful divorce when there are kids involved? It depends on the parties involved. I was watching a show and showed how bitter the ex can be and try to make their life hell through the kids, that is not fair but many people do this as a way to get back at them. This can have a very negative effect on the child and their relationship I think, so be careful how you handle things if ever you and your partner decide to end things.I know many who have waited until the kids leave home before they call it quits. Is that a better way? OR just wasting time?